"Getting Along With Your Parents"

Preached by on August 28, 2016
— From the series,

Mom and Dad are not the easiest people with whom to get along. They have all these rules you have to follow. They are always getting on your case. How do you get along with parents?


Getting Along With Your Parents

(Eph. 6:1-3)



A.  I don’t doubt you are the perfect child.  But I do doubt you have the perfect parents.  You see, living life when you’re 13-22 is not easy in a house where people don’t treat you like an adult.  Where rules are made and enforced that don’t even make sense.  Where demands are made on your time, energy, and ability without respect for you as an individual.  Life is tough when you live under the harsh conditions that many teenagers face today.  So my question this morning is how do you get along with your parents?

B.  Last Sunday I asked your parents to put aside some emotional responses to Bible words, and let God speak.  I know that was not easy because some of them have talked to me about last week’s sermon.  But today, I am going to ask all of you kids who are still living at home to try and put aside your emotional response to Bible words and hear the voice of God speak to you.

C.  So for the next few minutes, let’s dig deeply into God’s word and seek to find the answer to: “How can I get along with my parents?”


I.  The 12 Year Old Jesus

A.  Let me take you to a Bible story.  Think about the best family time you had on a trip that centered on worship.  While many families only worship together in this church building, I would like you to think about a family trip that centered on growing together spiritually.  For the Jews, there were prescribed times when the men would come to Jerusalem and sometimes they brought their family along with them.

B.  Luke 2:41-43 records one of those times.  Now, let me be honest to the text.  Jesus was not lost.  Jesus intentionally stayed behind in Jerusalem.  Now I will be the first to tell you that I don’t fully understand that action except that Jesus understood a deep lesson that his parents did not.

C.  Before you decide you need to teach your parents a strong spiritual lesson, you better make sure you know what you are doing and who you are.  As wise as you may be, you are not God or God in human form.  So be careful that you don’t use this text incorrectly to lecture your parents.

D.  Let’s come back to the story.  Joseph and Mary travel towards home and that night they realize Jesus is not just hanging out with his cousins, that he is missing, in fact, they realize he was never in the large caravan so they rush back to Jerusalem to look for their boy.

E.  When they find him, the Bible says it was on the third day, and Jesus was in the temple listening and asking questions with the teachers of the law.  As any normal parent would, Mom flips out on her kid (READ vs 48).  I know you moms in here can relate to Mary.  I also know you dad may have been like Joseph and don’t have any lines to say.

F.  But let the story continue (READ vs 49-50).  Jesus wanted his parents to understand that he did know who he was and were he came from.  Jesus knew that God was his father.  Joseph and Mary didn’t understand that they were raising the Messiah, Immanuel, “God with us.”

G.  Look what God in the flesh did (READ vs 51).  Listen to me kids.  It doesn’t make a difference if you 5 for 15, 12 or 22, what Jesus did was give you example of how to get along with parents that don’t understand you – He was submissive to them.  Even perfect Jesus obeyed his parents.


II.  Children Obey Your Parents

A.  Come back to our text in Eph. 6:1.  The first thing God says to you is “obey your parents.”  I am sure you know that word.  Most kids living at home dislike the word obey.  It denotes that you are not in control, but that someone else has authority over you.  I am sure that there are times as you grow in your teen years that you have some authority issues.  Don’t worry, when you get a job you will still have someone telling you what do.  We all live under authority.

B.  But we do so because of what it means to be “in the Lord.”  Both child and parents need to “be in the Lord.”

C.  But continue our text (verse 2-3).  This comes right out of the 10 Commandments that God gave through Moses to the people of Israel.  In that case, the command was given more to adult kids who had older living parents, but God now uses that idea with younger kids living at home.

D.  But he wants them to understand the good that comes from obedience.  Just like a blessed marriage comes from submission and sacrificial love, a good child-parent relationship comes from a willingness to obey.

E.  The promise is that if you want a good, long, prosperous life, it begins by learning obedience and respect to those in authority.  When that lesson is deeply understood and practiced, adult life will become easier.  The longer you have authority issues, the more difficult even your adult life will be.  Christians parents want their kids to success in life, and seek to give them what is best.  Honor your parents.



A. I am asking you kids to listen to me.  You don’t know what is like to be 49, but I do know what it is like to be 16.  This sermon is about parents abusing their kids and God being okay with that – God is not.  It not about kids being smarter than their parents and having to teach them – for parents don’t learn well from their kids.  This lesson is about God wanting you to have a good, long, happy life on this earth.  That comes the lessons learned in a strong Christian home where parents and kids seek God’s will always.

B.  I know parents are not always good listeners.  I know we don’t always understand or see your point of view.  But God steps in and says to you. Chill out and follow your parents lead.  They are doing the best they know how.  Love them, honor them, obey them.

C. Jesus was a perfect child and he lived in submission, obedience, under the authority of his parents.  Jesus sets the example for you to live by.  So live by it.