Forgiveness Is Difficult

Col 3:12-14

12 Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassion, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, 13 bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. 14 And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.

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Forgiveness Is Difficult

 (Col. 3:12-14)

Intro:

            A.  He was betrayed by Judas and openly denied by Peter.  At his trial no one stood beside him to defend him.  He was accused based upon lies and misrepresentation of his words.  Pilate knew he was innocent, but as a politician his position in government was of greater value than the life of a commoner.  He listened as the religious leaders incited the crowd to call out, “crucify him!  Crucify him!”

            B.  Jesus was beaten with whips, a crown of thorn driven into his head, he was forced to drag his cross through the streets of Jerusalem then outside the gate, but he fell.  Then he was crucified between two thieves as an insurrectionist.  While on the cross he cried out a several times, but one is particularly difficult to accept.  Jesus prayed to God on behalf of all those who denied him, left him, called for his death and, in truth, he prayed on behalf of every person who has sinned.  Jesus prayed for me as he said, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.”

            C.  How do you forgive for those who hurt you, desire to kill you, or friends who deny your relationship?  As the song says, “He could have called ten thousand angels, but he died alone, for you and me.”       

            D.  When Jesus gave us the model of prayer, he would end that teaching by telling us that when we pray we should say, “Forgive us debts as we have forgiven our debtors.”  In our congregational reading we read that we should “forgive each other, as the Lord has forgiven us.”  Based upon the model prayer in Matt. 6, the statement of Jesus upon the cross and Paul’s teaching about forgiving others, the question is, “Do we understand and practice forgiveness to the level that is commanded of us?”

            E.  Pray with me.

 I.  The Forgiveness of Jesus

            A.  This month I have tried to consider some of the characteristics that Jesus showed us in his human form.  I reflected upon his call to repent and need to teach and practice repentance; his compassion and how I can show that compassion to others; his prayer life and how I can grow in prayer; and now I conclude with the way in which he forgave and the calling for me to forgive in the same manner.

            B.  Holding on to my anger does not benefit me but often causes me to resent another for some perceived or real wrong-doing that has been done.  To forgive takes both my mind and my emotions working together in order for it to accomplish what God calls of me.   

            C.  How many people did Jesus extend forgiveness to?  When it came to the cross, Jesus died for the sin of all mankind.  It is tempting to justify my anger, but forgiveness calls me to think not just feel.  I must think about the situation from God’s perspective, not my emotions.  This is not easy.  The difficulty for me is Jesus forgave me before I repented.  I did not receive the blessing of that forgiveness until I repented, but he forgave me before I repented.  While I was still a sinner, Christ died for me. 

            D.  The way Jesus forgives is the standard by which I should forgive others.  Forgiveness is not about personal therapy, even though it does help us when we forgive others.  It not something that sounds nice do when I grow old and face death; it is commanded of me to do right now if I expect God to forgive me.

            E.  We talk about how we will be judged in the same way we judge others, but we need also to remember will be forgiven in the same manner that that we forgive others.  Forgiveness is difficult because it goes against our internal system of justice.  But the calling is for me to let go being God in each case.  God will judge a person for their deeds and I know that if He chooses to send them to hell because of their sin against me, it will be based upon His justice, not mine.  Forgiveness lets go of me being the judge and leaves it with God so that I can continue to walk in holiness.

II.  The Practice of Forgiveness

            A.  Let’s move away from theory and into practice.  I hurt more when I wronged by someone I care about than when I am wronged by someone I don’t have a deep relationship.  The bully can might bring me down, cause me to reflect poorly upon myself or embarrass me; but when someone I care for deeply is the bully it takes on a different level of hurt. 

            B.  When Paul writes to the churches in Ephesus and Colossae, he writes sections that are almost identical.  In both letters, Paul teaches about forgiving like Jesus.  I want to come back to Col. 3 and walk through a few thoughts.  Listen to Col. 3:1-3.  If I SEEK (take the action of learning and knowing) and if I SET MY MIND (make the decision to follow what I know), then I can achieve the depth of transformation that Christ desires.  To help me understand the transformation process, Paul tells me in vs 5 to “put to death” certain things; vs 8 to “put them all away,” and in vs 9 to “put off the old self.”  His point is, there is some house cleaning that needs to take place inside of me if I am going to call myself a disciple of Jesus. 

            C.  I realize we are not perfect in our walk with the Lord. I know that there are sins listed in verses 5-9 that we may fight against because of the hold they had on us.  But I cannot justify any of those sins.  My active spiritual walk is to not let any of them rule over me. 

            D.  Paul does something in this passage that is important.  Paul helps us to see that God doesn’t just give us a list of things we need to quit, he gives us the method of replacing the sin with God’s righteousness.  Listen to Col. 3:12-14.  Understand, part of way I get rid of sin in my life is to replace it with righteousness.  This month I have tried to share with you the character of Jesus so that we can better be his disciples.  Our lives are “hidden” in Christ.  Jesus embodied the list that Paul gives us as Christians.

            E.  Forgiveness is a key element to living as God’s chosen people.  It is not request, it’s a command.

Conclusion:

            A.  Forgiveness is difficult, but Jesus commands it.  It’s not optional.  It’s not something I do when I feel like it. Forgiveness is part of the nature of God and therefore needs to be central to my life.

            B.  There are lots of stories out there about people who forgive those who have committed crimes against them.  I appreciate those who deeply love people who don’t deserve to be loved and forgive them.  But I contend the most difficult people to forgive is the ones with whom we care about.  Be that blood family, or the blood of Jesus family. 

            C.  There may be some here today that are holding on to bitterness, anger, wrath and malice.  It’s time to put them to away and to put on compassion, humility, patience and forgiveness. 

            D.  Let me ask you to think about your answer to this question:  How much love and unity do you want this congregation to experience?  How much forgiveness by you will it take to achieve that?  How willing are you to humble yourself and ask for forgiveness if you know you have hurt a brother or sister?  Forgiveness needs to be offered, but sometimes, we need to also ask for it.  If I have offended you, sinned against you, or have hurt you in your spiritual walk, I hope you will forgive me.  I also hope you will be able to tell me what I have done so that I can seek to change.

            E.  Jesus hung on a cross and prayed, “Father for them, for they know not what they do.”  May you and I seek the love of Jesus by forgiving others the way he has forgiven us.  If we can help you in your walk with the Lord, please come as we stand and sing.